Hello everyone! In this article, We are going to see four powerful ways that will help you stop comparing yourself to others.
In today’s world, it is easy for us to always notice the triumphs, success, and even the vanity of others. Technology and social media help in making anyone appears perfect and feel happier all the time. Even our friends and people who are closer to us might look more successful and enjoyed of their lives.
If I tell you to think a little bit about this matter, you will likely remember many people you have compared yourself to them in the last month. This maybe can include a co-worker who was promoted at work, or maybe a friend who went for a vacation. Maybe another person you haven’t meet for years posted a story on social media that caused you to start envying his or her life.
By comparing yourself to others, you will start easily loosing your self-confidence and self-esteem. If you are not cautious about this dangerous matter, you can easily fall into the trap of putting all your focus on other people’s lives and forgetting who you are and what you have accomplished.
How can you stop focusing on the other people’s lives? To answer this question. Let’s us see some few tips and ways that you can use to stop comparing yourself to others.
1. Know Your Triggers
Maybe a co-worker being promoted at work does not impact you, but a friend is going to marry does. Because you might have no partner or recently break up with your husband or wife. Or, maybe you have been with someone who refused to marry you. Consequently, you start making comparison according to the things you want to what others have. These things that lead you to compare are your triggers. Sometimes, it does not matter for you if someone has more than you, but other times it can affect you negatively, making you feel sad.
What you have to do is to understand and accept your triggers. This will make it easier for you to stop comparing yourself. As a first step, you can avoid these triggers so that they do not affect you too much. Another good tip is to limit using social media. Do you find yourself constantly scrolling up and down social media feeds?
Try to build the habit of keeping your phone out of reach. This will make you surf the social media less and as a result you will lower the chance of making comparison that only wastes your valuable time. Also, try to convince yourself that comparing yourself will not help you progress. Once you do that, your triggers will no longer be existing.
2. Remember That It May Not Be Real
Because the world we live in today is dominated by social media, everyone can easily look as if they are living a perfect life. Even the pictures people post on their profiles are edited to look perfect. The real world itself sometimes does not reflect the reality. Your friend got married? Maybe they are suffering from other troubles such as health problems or money difficulties. That co-worker who seems successful? Maybe they are having familial problems.
Most of the time, people will only show you what they want to show you, especially on social media. You never really know what they are facing in the real life. So, when you start comparing yourself to others, never forget that no one is living a perfect life. You have no idea about what others are facing in reality, and your situation might really be better than theirs in other sides of life.
3. Be Grateful For What You Have
Comparing yourself to others will make you lose everything you have as well as it will weaken you. When you practice gratitude every day, you will help yourself to stop making comparisons. Every morning, try to remember at least five things in your life that you are grateful for. This will help you start your day with a positive attitude.
Another wonderful way to show gratitude is to write down on your notebook something that you are happy to have it in your life whenever you think of it throughout your day. The advantage of this way is that you can read again your gratitude moments, especially if you are feeling sad. It is like a beautiful reminder of the amazing things you have in life.
4. Use it as a Motivational Tool
Sometimes, comparing yourself to others can be something useful for you. If what you are looking for is something you can achieve it by working on it, you can allow the comparison empowers you with motivation to have it. For instance, if you compare yourself to someone who is more kind and charitable than you, this can really motivate you to start taking actions to be like him.
If your co-worker seems to be receiving much appreciation for their achievements, let that motivates you to work harder and make everyone notices your accomplishments as well.
When you begin to work on the things that you like in others, the comparison starts decreasing and the hard work start increasing. So, comparing yourself to others start gradually becoming a motivational tool for you to make the best of your efforts.
So, stop wasting your valuable time on social media that will only make you wish for a better life and comparing yourself to others. Do not feel negative about yourself because you think you are not achieving much in your life. When you use comparison wrongly, it will make you spend all your days envying others. Instead of comparing yourself to others, allow their achievements to motivate you to work on your goals and achieve them.